THANKFUL FOR A GOOD THING
Proverbs 18:22 – He who finds a wife, finds a good thing. And obtains favor from the Lord.
I had a good friend that described my analysis of the stewarding of my “Kingdom Perspective conundrum” as “having one foot in the now and having another foot in the next”
I like that. And It caused me to think about the real issue that was on my heart when I wrote the last blog. Because the fact remains, there really is a problem that arises when I get my dreaming about the next out of balance with my appreciation for the now. And that problem is – people get hurt. Specifically the ones that I’m more connected to.
The reality is, my wife tends to feel less important when I put more of my time into other things besides her. It may be good things. It may only be a few minutes or hours a week. But for every one of those minutes or hours I’m putting into a good or great new thing, I’m ultimately taking a minute or hour from somewhere else. There is only so much time in a day. And it’s usually time spent with my wife, my best friend, my gift from God, that loses that match.
Now don’t misuderstand what I’m saying here. She loves me and wants me to be happy. She’s my biggest supporter. She wants me to have dreams and has no problem if I go after them. BUT – and this is something I didn’t believe or understand or was just plain blind to – My wife wants to be a part of the dreams. Or more specifically, wants me to want her to be a part of my dreams.
It’s easy for us, as husbands, to see our wives and their questions and their opinions as obstacles. As walls. As locked gates to the entrance of our “destinies”. I felt that way for a long time. If you don’t see things the way I see them. And if you don’t agree that the time is now. Then you must disagree with me and are preparing to push back against my desires and passions and dreams.
IT’S NOT TRUE. My wife is not a wall separating me from my future. She’s a helper that must be included in order for me to get there. She’s not an obstacle that I should be attempting to maneuver around in order to experience bigger and better things. She’s an encourager that I should be expecting to seek wisdom and guidance from in order to be my best when the time comes to experience the fruit of my labor.
The truth is, when we chose to unite our lives together, believing that TWO become ONE, we did it with a true understanding that what’s mine is hers and what’s hers is mine. I know the Lord has called me (and my amazing bride) to big, Big, BIG things. And as much as I believe I want to experience it all, I know now that if I don’t notice, appreciate and be thankful for the GOOD THING that God has gifted me with, I won’t have His FAVOR to take one more step further into the true destiny he has for me.
